10 Surefire Ways to Sabotage (or Realize) Your Personal Growth Goals


There is a profound magic in the setting and accomplishing of goals. Goals offer us a more focused direction and purpose for engaging with others, or for the benefit of self-challenge and generating more enthusiasm in daily life. Most people carry a native cynicism about goal making, always citing the negative reality of goals ending up unrealized.

That’s understandable. Goal making, along with achievement, has a dismal track record.

A recent survey found 9% of Americans were serious and committed to achieving their New Year’s goals; 51% don’t make New Year’s resolutions and of those that do, 7% have no real plan for achieving them.

Ultimately, our lives revolve around the many choices we make every day. Choice determines the quality of our lives, presenting the opportunity to empower or enslave, to create safety or challenge, to invite love or loneliness. Through the perspective that we choose, we uncover a primary and powerful tool for improving our lives.

Therefore, in support of freely choosing your own path, I submit:

10-Surefire Ways to SABOTAGE Your Personal Growth Goals

1. PROCRASTINATE Your goals aren’t going anywhere. They’ll be there when you’re ready. What’s the rush? Are you going to be controlled by a timeline? Don’t be so pathetic. There are so many other things you can do, and remember: procrastination can a practical strategy. You call the shots! You’re in control! Do it when you’re good and ready! Who needs more pressure?

2. MAKE A LONG LIST OF ALL YOUR GOALS—WRITE DOWN EVERYTHING!
 You have just two or three little goals and you think you’re dreaming big? I know a guy that’s got 25! Think about that! And if you do get around to making some goals, make sure to list only what others want you to do--or things you feel guilty about not having done.

3. FORGET “MANAGEABLE” GOALS Managing goals sounds like a lot of work, doesn’t it? And, painfully boring! Who has the time? Truth is: manageable goals are for wimps. Reach for the sky! Go extreme! Dream big!

4. LOSE THE “GAME PLANS” Come ‘on! Do you really need your hand held? Or a map? Smart people wing it. Don’t get so neurotic about achievement or organization. Sometimes you just gotta leap into the void, not step. Remember: “Baby steps” are for people with little feet...

5. KEEP ‘EM SECRET
And why should you blab about your goals to anyone that will listen? Do they really need to know your personal business? Are you that insecure that you need to broadcast everything in detail? Do us all a favor: keep it a secret! Then, if you screw up, no one will know! Play it safe. Don’t show your cards. See, smart advice...

6. DON’T TAKE UP OTHER INTERESTS 
Suddenly, you want to take up another hobby? Isn’t this just a time suck? Hobbies are for people who have nothing to do. And, in the long run, you end up learning USELESS information and wasting a lot of time you can’t afford to waste. Do you really need this? Be in the moment—more to learn there. Stop doing things!

7. WATCH LOTS OF TV The major network seasonal lineup really looks good this year. You don’t want to miss a lot of good stuff and of course, food always taste better in front of the TV, right? With the remote in hand, you are “King/Queen Surf”—you go wherever you want. Don’t miss out!

8. SPEND MORE TIME AT WORK Approval requires major sacrifice. Show and prove your dedication. If you work, you make money. Very simple, right? Money allows you to choose the life you want to lead. It’s practically everything! Work hard, makes lots of money, spend it. That’s the real deal. So, spend more time at work so you can get more stuff. That’s the bottom line...

9. IGNORE YOUR HEALTH
 You’re fine! Stop being such a baby!!! Let go of all the complaining and nonsense theories about what you should or should not be eating and enjoy whatever your beating heart desires—and for as long as you want, too! You only live once, right? Sure, you might get a bit tired, but you can work all that out later. Get your butt in the gym! There’s certainly enough to feel deprived about in other areas of life, why always drag food into it? You’ll die when you’re ready, so drop the dietary rules and obsessions. It is just fear trying to control you. Besides, look around you: so many people are in worse shape! Seriously. Hey, take a break! Have some French Fries. Relish some cheese dip. Sit on your couch. Be at one with your cravings.

10. DUMP DISCIPLINE Restriction is for kids—or those in the military. I’m not sure about you, but I have all the discipline I can handle right now. I don’t need more self-imposed tests that deprive and create stress. If I wanted more discipline, I would join the Marine Core. Dump “discipline.”

Congratulations!

You’ve now completed the 10-point plan for self-sabotage.

Good luck!

2017

New Year, New You!

The value of making goals is to help us determine our priorities and in that process, we become more organized, develop stronger personal worth and grow how we challenge our self-imposed limitations. While there are many positive results that come from creating and the accomplishing your goals, making unrealistic resolutions can add stress, and foster feelings of being a failure.

To make successful lifestyle changes require knowledge, time, and commitment. I’m sure you heard this before (maybe from that annoying high school Principal who loved to lecture students) but it’s the truth: leaping for change before doing the necessary prep work is a sure-fire recipe for failure. Rather than expecting ourselves to make a change right away, we can instead learn about the necessary and foundational steps to make a successful change. Those steps are the path to where we want to go.

With that said, I give you:

10-Surefire Ways to Realize Your New Year’s Goals

The difference between a wish and a goal is the written word. --Anonymous

1) REFLECT! What was this previous year about for you? What kind of theme did it have? Were you focused? Did you achieve your goals from last year? Did you
make goals last year? Reflect on what you’d really want this next year to be about and how you want to grow.

2) LIST 2 TO 4 GOALS IN DIFFERENT CATEGORIES 
Create two to four goals in each area: Health, Relationships, Work, Finance, Home, Creative, Emotional, Spiritual, Educational, Physical, etc. See Part Three of this article for examples. This is not root canal therapy. Dare to dream. What do you want? What do you need to overcome those stuck places? To remain inspired? To have more fun? To communicate better? To be a more self-realized individual? To be healthier? Think!

3) LIST YOUR GOALS AS IF THEY’VE ALREADY HAPPENED!
 Before listing the goals in a particular category, give a one or two-line explanation of the goal, in past tense, as if it has already happened. Example: “I am enjoying my new job as Las Vegas’ most popular Tex-Mex Elvis impersonator, “El-Vernio.” Or, ”I bought the guitar of my dreams and no longer have to fake it—I finally took lessons and can play—5 songs!” Write in past tense.

4) MAKE A STEP-BY-STEP GOAL ACHIEVEMENT PLAN 
Type it up clearly and print out several copies. One for your file and one as a working copy. One of my clients, a photographer going pro made one of his goals go commercial with his fine art photography. The steps he mapped out to take, were: a) Setting up a web-site for displaying his images; b) Expanding the memory on
his computer; c) Purchasing the new edition of Photographer’s Market and examining at the market potential; d) Expand his image base (which means to be more conscious about events that he wants to shoot, the creative projects he’s currently involved with, and new ones to develop); e) Purchasing one of those
long lenses that look like a bazooka for distance shooting; f) Getting a list of all city galleries and composing an introductory letter with samples of his images.; g) Getting on Instagram and work other forms of social media. These steps led him to having a greater bank of images to sell, making more valuable gallery contacts and becoming better known. A step-by-step plan makes his goal of more exposure attainable and easier to realize.

5) GIVE YOURSELF A TIME LINE
 Don’t break your neck doing it, but just give yourself a practical deadline on how long a specific goal could take. A little pressure won’t kill you, but a lot of pressure can weight heavily. That’s why the hallmark of health has always been moderation! Push...but, make a deal with yourself that if you don’t accomplish your goal, or get closer to it after a deadline passes, that you’ll just drop it—and make another! Flexibility is the key.

6) MAKE ACHIEVABLE GOALS
 First make sure that you have some passion behind what you want. If one of your goals is to have all your wisdom teeth removed, you may find secret joy in procrastinating with this one, so make sure you have passionate commitment behind what you’re planning. This is supposed to be fun, adventurous and something that adds another dimension of excitement to your life, not dread. Be specific on your goals.

7) BLAB TO FRIENDS & FAMILY
 Don’t keep your goals secret. To those that matter, share your goals; find out if your friends have their own. Ask their opinion on the best way to achieve these goals. Sharing this part of yourself is about openly declaring your choice to expand your horizons. However, if World Peace is on your list, you might get a lot of flak for this...

8) MONTHLY SELF-MONITORING Each month, take another look at your worksheet and consider what you’ve accomplished--or what steps your taking from your list. Think about how you can do this in a more focused and productive way. Remember to give yourself credit for whatever movement you’ve taken in this direction.

9) SHARE GOAL SETTING Share with your Mate, Partner or Close Friend. There’s nothing like having a supportive partner or buddy. There might be a goal or two that you both share as well. Check in with each other at an appointed weekly or monthly time and talk about your progress or stuck places.

10) CELEBRATE YOUR VICTORIES! For any accomplishment reward yourself. Last year, one of my goals was to begin a more consistent biking routine. After I had some steady workouts for a month, I bought a great pair of riding gloves. Small gift, fun reward. Ultimately, goal setting is really not about accomplishing a list of tasks. That’s for grocery shopping. Real goal setting is about confronting what you’re willing to risk for self-challenge.

How well can you consistently discipline yourself to accomplish without becoming obsessive? To what degree can you let go of all the negativity associated with deserving and manifest your what you really want?

"May you have 
enough happiness to make you sweet,

enough trials to make you strong, enough sorrow

to keep you human, enough hope to make you happy."

- Victor Hugo

Now, on to Part Three—

“This year, I wanna be perfect...”

“New Year's is a harmless annual institution, of no particular use to anybody save as a scapegoat for promiscuous drunks, and friendly calls and humbug resolutions.”

— Mark Twain

Face it. Goals have gotten a bad rap over the years. Seems like no one can really keep maintain their goals. People make them, break them--and then joke about them.

May all your troubles last as long as your New Year's resolutions! — Joey Adams

One of the reason goal-making has become somewhat of a farce, is because we really
don’t understand how to make attainable goals that still challenge us, help us move beyond our limitations, or create more value in daily life. Instead, if we make an attempt
at goals, they’re usually too ideal or grandiose; often, we’re not aware of the practical steps that need to happen in order to realize these goals. If we fail, we inevitably blame “will- power” and our self-confidence takes a beating. So, we joke about it:

“A New Year's resolution is something that goes in one year and out the other.”

— Anonymous

The Six Rewards of Goals

A goal is a well-defined target that can offer you clarity, direction, motivation, and focus. Changing the stagnated and negative aspects of our life is the first step toward enhancing our emotional and physical health.

Goals can be regarded as tools that offer six positive rewards:

  1. They help you to move your life in a positive direction.


  2. They help form new habits, or change existing ones.


  3. They help to improve or develop a skill, talent, or ability.


  4. They help you to realize a dream, or other important outcome.

  5. They improve your performance on a task, or activity.


  6. They help you to feel more control and confidence in your life.

But, I’m going to let you in on a little secret: Making your goals happen is not about will power. It’s about three things—and three things only:

Knowing the importance of making goals – Value.